Respect Your Goal

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I love this quote by Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. Yes, I definitely did say his full name.  Well, I didn’t say his middle name because I am not sure if Douglas goes before “The Rock” or after.  I guess that is something I will have to ask after we get married.  Anyway, not only do I just love this bald beauty (swoon) but this quote hits home with me. quote-the-first-step-to-achieving-your-goal-is-to-take-a-moment-to-respect-your-goal-know-dwayne-johnson-77-94-20

We all have big dreams of accomplishing something great with our lives and almost everyone has a big dream that would change their health and fitness.  I am sure we could all name a handful of people who have something they would like to accomplish to make their lifestyle a healthier one. And out of all those people you can think of, including yourself, how many of those actually accomplished them? …Maybe 10%? But why?

You have a goal? Great.

You created a realistic plan? Awesome.

Are you following through with this plan? Cool.

Oh but wait…you stopped? You got “lazy”? You lack motivation?

You aren’t lazy or unmotivated you just skipped a stepped; know your WHY. Why do you want to achieve this goal?  What does it mean to you to accomplish this? How will it make you feel? How will your life change? You need to ask yourself these questions to dig deep into why you are moving forward with such a new big task.  If you don’t understand why you are doing this then you will “get lazy and unmotivated”.  You are only going to limit your sugar intake for a week and stop the afternoon walks because at some point it becomes less fun, more work and nobody wants to work for no reason.

When you know your WHY you are more connected to your goal and those hard days won’t seem so hard.  When I trained for my first bikini show I was a chronic binge eater, purged in many ways and never lifted anything heavier than my handbag.  Getting on that stage wasn’t just about being in the best shape of my life but it did start out that way.  As I continued to struggle through the process, I began to realize that this wasn’t about getting “skinny” any more.  It wasn’t about having a dream body and being confident in a bikini.  It was about proving to myself that I can accomplish this “impossible” task because up until that point I felt like I failed in everything I did. I didn’t want to be a failure anymore and now it was about showing myself that I am capable no matter what anyone said.   Once I understood what it meant to achieve this goal I was unstoppable.  Did I make my mistakes? I sure did.  Every weekend I ate a jar full of fatty mistakes but I didn’t let it stop me.  Aside from being in my best shape my only goal for this show was to place Top 5.  I said it every day to myself going to the gym, at the gym, in the morning when I didn’t want to do cardio, eating my fish when I couldn’t stand the smell any more and even after my anxiety driven binges.  Top 5. Top 5. Top 5. 

So what happened? I placed Top 5, literally.

Don’t mistake my binge remarks as that I am implying that I was healthy through this prep process, but it was part of my journey and I refuse to lie about it.  This prep journey was the beginning of my healing and luckily for me I was able to grow from it instead of going in the opposite direction.

I got to my goal because I respected my goal.  I knew what it meant to me to achieve it and I felt it every damn day. My WHY is what kept me in the gym, waking up early, following my meal plan as best as I could and telling myself I can do this even when I really didn’t believe I can.  Knowing my WHY forced me to make changes in my life that weren’t productive to my goal and these choices felt natural. Knowing my WHY forced me to respect my goal and respect what it was going to take to get there.  Knowing my WHY created this unstoppable woman who achieved the one thing she wanted; Top 5.

Set a goal, create a plan, follow through with that plan, but first, RESPECT what it is means to achieve that goal.  Know Your WHY.

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Changes That Happen When You Become a #FitChick

Fitness ModelsBeing “girly” takes a back seat.

There was a time in your life where make up was a must, cute bras were a thing and you had more heels and handbags to last you a month without repeating.  Then you started lifting and loving it.  So what happens? Your heels have been replaced with sneakers, your purses barely see the sun because your hands are full carrying your gallon of water, six pack bag and gym bag and cute bras don’t belong under your cute muscle tees. Ok they might, but not in the gym.  Becoming a #FitChick has now given you two advantages in life; you’re always ready for an impromptu workout and you’re prepared for the zombie apocalypse.  The girl running in heels and a handbag is definitely going to die, but you won’t because you’ve got on some Nikes and muscles.  Winning!

“Does my ass look big in this?” takes a whole new meaning.

There use to be a time when asking that question and getting a “yes” was straight up depressing.  But now, that “yes” is music to your ears.  I mean, after all the days you spend cringing as you sit on the toilet after leg day you better hope your ass gets bigger!  We aren’t squatting for our health here….. that would just be silly.

You stop worrying about your weight as much.

Before lifting all you could worry about is the scale number getting smaller.  That was all you wanted and all you cared about and it didn’t matter where the loss came from or how you did it; You felt “good” at that lower weight.  Then you start lifting and eating differently to build and shape your body and what happens? Your body fat stays around the athletic mark but your weight goes up. Well shit, now it’s time to brag about it because you got gainz!

Food is no longer your enemy.

And one glorious morning you wake up and realize “Wait, I need to eat more food to lose body fat? I need to eat more food to gain muscle? I can eat more carbs? More fats? I CAN EAT DONUTS AND NOT DIE?!?! WHY DIDN’T ANYBODY TELL ME THIS?”  Well, they have been but you just refused to listen.   That’s ok.   It only took 10 years and 550 cycles of crashing dieting to figure it out, but at least you are on the right path now.


Turning into a #FitChick has so many perks in life; you start to learn what feels good for your body, you enjoy sweets guilt-free and you become so strong you could crack a walnut between your legs. But most importantly the confidence you gain from all the hard work you put into the gym spills over into other areas of your life and nobody can take that away from you because you’re a #FitChick.

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